Faithful And True Ministries

But there is help for men and women caught in sexual addiction's downward spiral. This book offers a path that leads beyond compulsive thoughts and behaviors to healing and transformation. Sensitive to the shame of sexual addiction without minimizing its sinfulness, Dr. Laaser traces the roots of the problem, discusses its patterns and impact, and maps out a biblical approach to self-control and sexual integrity. Previously titled Faithful and True, this revision includes an all-new section that deals with sexual addiction in the church.

Here is what Zondervan Publishing says about the book:

Using stories, Biblical references, and sound psychological principles, the Laasers explore human relationships by examining seven desires we all share: to be heard, affirmed, blessed, safe, touched, chosen, and included ...

This book is for spouses longing to connect and communicate on a deeper level, for parents who want to be more attuned to their children, for teachers needing healthy ways to motivate students, for pastors and church leaders struggling to develop greater insight into increasingly diverse congregations, and for everyone seeking a richer and more intimate relationship with God.

If you choose to stay in your marriage, you have options other than punishing, tolerating, or ignoring your spouse; in fact, extraordinary growth awaits a woman willing to deal with the pain of her husband's struggles with sexual purity. Even if a spouse will not participate in a program for healing, a woman who has been sexually betrayed can change her own life in powerful and permanent ways.

This sensitive book provides practical tools to help you make wise and empowering decisions, emotional tools to develop greater intimacy in your life, and spiritual tools to transform your suffering. Debra Laaser's personal journey through betrayal, her extensive work with hundreds of hurting women, and her intimate marriage two decades after the disclosure of her husband's infidelity provide meaningful answers to the questions that arise amid the complex fallout of broken vows.

The pain endured from sexual betrayal can break your heart, but it does not need to break your life.

The workbook contains 12 units that each contain five lessons. This workbook has been used for years by support groups in which the members study and work on the material together. This is the first time that Dr. Laaser described his model of healthy sexuality. Six of the units focus on how to develop healthy sexuality in a person's life. These units have also helped spouses of addicts. This is also the first time that he described how to build trust back into relationships.

Borrowing from concepts of how children develop emotionally, physically, and spiritually he uses sample conversations to teach how to model and teach healthy sexuality. This book also contains a chapter about how to talk to each other as husband and wife about sexuality and a chapter on how to have safe conversations. One of the basic themes of this book is that the greatest enemy of sexual health is silence and that if parents don't talk to their kids about basic biblical and moral values, the world will teach them incorrect messages.

Stories are used throughout to illustrate basic concepts. This book includes chapters on how to develop intimacy, find accountability, and grow spiritually as the ways to find fidelity from sexual sin and addiction. Readers will also find the chapters on the role of trauma in addiction and the path of healing from trauma as being a vital contribution to the healing journey.

Various chapters deal with the nature of this problem, what happens to various groups in the church, and how a church can pursue a plan of healing. This book has been used by leadership teams around the world to deal head on with this issue. Dr. Laaser and his team conducted early research on how damaging this problem can be and how divisive to church if not treated.

Each chapter of this book contains writing exercises that couples can do with each other. The purpose of the exercises is to restore relationships and to help them build healthier, more spiritually and emotionally intimate marriages. This book has often been used by groups of couples that seek to work through it together and to have fellowship and accountability with each other.

It is intended for support groups to use to find healing, fellowship, and accountability with each other. The workbook contains a chapter on Dr. Laaser’s newest teaching on accountability based on the book of Nehemiah.

It is part of the LIFE series of workbooks for men, women, spouses, and couples struggling with sex addiction, and is the primary resource we encourage spouses to work through. It is intended for use in conjunction with support groups for healing and support, but can also be helpful for self-study purposes if groups are not available in your area.

This guide addresses 40 topics including: sexual expectations and satisfaction; infidelity, forgiveness, and trust; sexual addictions; gender identity issues; and raising sexually healthy kids. Each topic covered follows a helpful eight-part outline and identifies typical symptoms and patterns, definitions and key thoughts, questions to ask, directions for the conversation, action steps, biblical insights, prayer starters, and recommended resources.

Disc one contains his teaching from the first four chapters of the book, Disc two comprises Dr. Laaser's teaching from Nehemiah, chapters 5 and 6. In both discs he discusses common mistakes that are made by recovering people and the hard work that is necessary to overcome them.

Based on three chapters from the Gospel of John, the questions are "Do you want to get well," "What are you thirsty for," and "What are you willing to die for?" Listeners new to the process of change and healing will be challenged to think and pray about deepening their faith as a foundation for the journey ahead.

Our fantasies (both sexual and non-sexual) are windows that reveal our soul's deepest longings and hurts. Instead of trying to overcome the power of fantasy by repressing the thoughts, Dr. Laaser suggests that we seek to learn from them. When we understand and find healing from the soul wounds that are the root of these longings, the power of the fantasies is reduced dramatically.

Trauma can best be defined as the emotional reaction we have when memories of wounds are "triggered" by others and by external events. It is important to understand how a person reacts and copes. From this place of understanding, emotional healing can proceed and healthy choices can be made.

He relates his own struggles growing up, and the lessons he's learned, offering hope for sexual health and purity in an unhealthy and impure world. This is great gift for any high school graduate or college student, but is also appropriate for young adults in non-campus settings.